Brave Listening

Brave Listening

"When we can acknowledge that and make room for that and accept that that is part of the human experience, then we can sit with someone and we can hold space for them and be present with them without feeling like we have to do something to make them feel better." -...

How 5 Minutes A Day Can Help Your Connection

How 5 Minutes A Day Can Help Your Connection

In this week's episode, Dr. Wyatt Fisher joins me to discuss the importance of constructive feedback in marriage and how to give and receive it effectively. "Conflict is the price we pay for intimacy. And so if you're wanting to have a deep connection with your...

Ultimatums in Marriage

Ultimatums in Marriage

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit to) someone else. While they may have been a contributing factor to the result of a situation, when we fail to acknowledge our own role in life's circumstances, we...

Can We Really Hate Our Spouse?

Can We Really Hate Our Spouse?

It is safe to say that each of us entered into married life believing that our love would last and the passion we felt would see us through any potential heartache and struggle. This is what makes it so humbling when we discover that we do indeed have the capacity, if...

The Dark Side Of Marriage

The Dark Side Of Marriage

Unless you're familiar with Dr. David Schnarch, you likely haven't heard about this dark side of married life. What follows is adapted from his work. There is a dark side in each one of us that is seldom discussed. An aspect of us that plays out in the shadows of...

A Marriage Fully Alive

A Marriage Fully Alive

If you missed the first parts of this series, click here for Part 1, and Part 2 In Alaska, there are mountain ranges around Denali where the weather and clouds are so thick that there are only twenty to thirty days a year where it is clear enough to see the peaks of...

A Passionate Marriage Is Created

A Passionate Marriage Is Created

Part one of this series can be found here. While standing in line at the store, you can feel the person right behind you. They are shifting back and forth and mumbling something inaudible under the breath. They are crowding your space in line as if by doing so the...

What Creates A Passionate Marriage?

What Creates A Passionate Marriage?

As the years pass and your marriage progresses, I am willing to bet that you are not in the same relationship from which you began. Oh you may still be with the one you originally married, but the relationship is not the same. It can't be. We constantly change and...

My Reads In 2022

My Reads In 2022

It was in grad school that I developed the need, then the love for reading (although now thanks to Audible, listening to books as well). Most all of them were good to great reads. A couple I didn't complete because I've finally gotten to the point where when I get to...