Ultimatums in Marriage

Relationship Design

When things happen in married life, whether bad or good, a common reaction is to blame (or give credit to) someone else. While they may have been a contributing factor to the result of a situation, when we fail to acknowledge our own role in life’s...

Can We Really Hate Our Spouse?

Relationship Design

It is safe to say that each of us entered into married life believing that our love would last and the passion we felt would see us through any potential heartache and struggle. This is what makes it so humbling when we discover that we do indeed have the capacity, if...

The Dark Side Of Marriage

Relationship Design

Unless you’re familiar with Dr. David Schnarch, you likely haven’t heard about this dark side of married life. What follows is adapted from his work. There is a dark side in each one of us that is seldom discussed. An aspect of us that plays out in the...

Simple and Healthy Ways to Deeper Connection

Relationship Design, Simplicity

A concept has been floating around the Inter-webs for a while now called flow. Basically, it’s losing yourself in whatever you’re doing – being so caught up and focused on the task at hand the world fades away. During these magical times a tremendous...

A Marriage Fully Alive

Relationship Design, Simplicity

If you missed the first parts of this series, click here for Part 1, and Part 2 In Alaska, there are mountain ranges around Denali where the weather and clouds are so thick that there are only twenty to thirty days a year where it is clear enough to see the peaks of...

A Passionate Marriage Is Created

Relationship Design, Simplicity

Part one of this series can be found here. While standing in line at the store, you can feel the person right behind you. They are shifting back and forth and mumbling something inaudible under the breath. They are crowding your space in line as if by doing so the...