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A Passionate Marriage Is Created
Part one of this series can be found here. While standing in line at the store, you can feel the person right behind you. They are shifting back and forth and mumbling something inaudible under the breath. They are crowding your space in line as if by doing so the...
What Creates A Passionate Marriage?
As the years pass and your marriage progresses, I am willing to bet that you are not in the same relationship from which you began. Oh you may still be with the one you originally married, but the relationship is not the same. It can't be. We constantly change and...
My Reads In 2022
It was in grad school that I developed the need, then the love for reading (although now thanks to Audible, listening to books as well). Most all of them were good to great reads. A couple I didn't complete because I've finally gotten to the point where when I get to...
Welcome to Passionately Married
“Doing is never enough if you neglect Being. The ego knows nothing of Being but believes you will eventually be saved by doing. If you are in the grip of the ego, you believe that by doing more and more you will eventually accumulate enough 'doings' to make yourself...
Connection . . . or Idealized Togetherness?
What's one of the biggest obstacles to experiencing intimacy in your marriage? More often than not, the answer is unrealistic togetherness expectations, i.e., idealized or fantasy togetherness. I can hear the objections coming on loud and clear! Think through this...
Focus On The How
What is it that creates the intensity in certain conversations with your spouse? What moves a conversation between two people from the issue at hand into personal meltdown - emotional reactivity? Emotional reactivity turns out to be nature's way of informing us of...
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