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I’m Corey, this is Pam.

Here to help couples spend their days fully alive.

We believe couples can be in control of their relationships, not the other way around. We can all remove the “ceiling” of our relationships. Let’s reach our potential, and then surpass it!

I empower people. Encourage them.
I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Professional Life & Relationship Coach. Pam’s my other half, my rock, my co-host, and the main reason our podcast isn’t a snore.

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We really love making this podcast together. It’s straight-forward, it’s honest, it’s smart and it’s real. Let’s talk about what actually happens in our bedrooms, right?

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With featured guests like

Ian Kerner

Author, Sex Therapist

Jennifer Findlayson Fife

Marriage and Family Therapist

Dr. Robert Glover

Author, speaker

Emily Nagoski


Lori Brotto

Canadian psychologist, Sex Therapist

Laurie Mintz

Sexuality psychologist

Vanessa Marin

Psychotherapist, Writer

Gary Thomas

Author, Speaker

Stephen Snyder

Author, MD

Recent Episodes

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Text Prompts

A years worth of reminders and question prompts to discuss.

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"Learned to work on myself"

"I always learn something"

"starting point for a long road of discovery"

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Our Articles

Keeping Your Cool

Keeping Your Cool

I know you've been there before, you're in the midst of an intense discussion with your spouse and it moves beyond a conversation about the issue at hand and gets personal. A button has been pushed, or you pushed their button and now it heats up even more. The...

Sexy Marriage Radio Turns 11!!!!

Sexy Marriage Radio Turns 11!!!!

Today is a big day. Sexy Marriage Radio is celebrating our 11th birthday today!!!! Celebrate with us because you are part of this with us. The SMR Nation is such a vital aspect of our journey thus far. Thank you for the 11 years of listening and supporting us. Here's...

Me vs We

Me vs We

You walk in the door and are greeted with… “Honey, we need to talk about a few things.” If you’re human, your insides immediately tighten and your defenses prepare for battle. It’s a common occurrence. Your spouse tells you what’s going on with them and you react. The...

Relationships Are Easy

Relationships Are Easy

Relationships are actually pretty easy. I didn't always believe this. In fact, I used to believe relationships are hard work. I've written these very words many times. You've probably even heard this phrase before. It is often stated as a Truism in our society, and...

Natural dynamics in every relationship

Natural dynamics in every relationship

There are natural dynamics at work in every marriage and relationship. How do these impact you? Here's a quick preview of one of our upcoming video courses, Desire Matters Course. Our Marriage Matters Courses launch in September of 2022!...

Natural dynamics in every relationship

A Better Framework

This is a common email I receive. A wife asked for help. She felt stuck in her marriage and wanted me to give her advice. While I do work with individuals in a counseling and coaching relationship, I was curious in the way she was wording her email so I asked her to...

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