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I’m Corey, this is Pam.

Here to help couples spend their days fully alive.

We believe couples can be in control of their relationships, not the other way around. We can all remove the “ceiling” of our relationships. Let’s reach our potential, and then surpass it!

I empower people. Encourage them.
I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Professional Life & Relationship Coach. Pam’s my other half, my rock, my co-host, and the main reason our podcast isn’t a snore.

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We really love making this podcast together. It’s straight-forward, it’s honest, it’s smart and it’s real. Let’s talk about what actually happens in our bedrooms, right?

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Ian Kerner

Author, Sex Therapist

Jennifer Findlayson Fife

Marriage and Family Therapist

Dr. Robert Glover

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Emily Nagoski


Lori Brotto

Canadian psychologist, Sex Therapist

Laurie Mintz

Sexuality psychologist

Vanessa Marin

Psychotherapist, Writer

Gary Thomas

Author, Speaker

Stephen Snyder

Author, MD

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Small changes &
so much more passion.

Anyone can do it. Really.

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Self-paced, online investment in yourself and your marriage.

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Naked Marriage: Uncovering Who You Are and Who You Can Become Together

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Text Prompts

A years worth of reminders and question prompts to discuss.

"Much deeper than surface suggestions"

"Learned to work on myself"

"I always learn something"

"starting point for a long road of discovery"

"It's the highlight of my week"

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SMR Mini-Conferences

SMR Mini-Conferences

Mini Dr Allan is hosting two, 2-Day Mini-Conferences Live to help create passionate marriages. These life-changing mini-conferences will be hosted at Christ Fellowship Church, 2801 Orchid Dr. McKinney, TX, 75072. And we want you to be part of our live audience. We are...

Rekindle and Connect Course Now Available

Rekindle and Connect Course Now Available

Today is a big day for the SMR Nation - we are launching for our first video course - Rekindle and Connect. As of this morning the course is now live and for the next 48 hours we are having a FLASH SALE. For the next 48 hours you have the opportunity to join the...

Rekindle and Connect Course Now Available

Want more movement? We are launching a new course.

I’ve heard this phrase over and over again in my work as a therapist, coach, speaker and podcast host: How do I get my spouse to ....? There was a time I used to say this a lot too. After all, I’ve been married to Pam for 28 years and we've had our share of gridlock...

Passion Isn’t The Problem

Passion Isn’t The Problem

Life has a way of grinding us up if we're not careful. Think about it. Where most of us spend a bulk of our week is even called the grind. Then when we add in the complexities, and at times drudgeries of relationships, we've got a recipe for struggle and life sucking...

What If Our Differences Are Good For Marriage?

Another preview of our upcoming course - Rekindle and Connect. What if our differences are actually good for marriage? The course will be available in a couple of weeks. And we will be having a FLASH SALE the first 48 hours it's available. Launching November...

Know Where You’re Going

Know Where You’re Going

An old story - but worth sharing again... A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them. "Not very long," answered the Mexican. "But then, why...

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We came online back in 2008. The podcast began in 2011 (formerly Sexy Marriage Radio). Since then, we have grown into a trusted resource and vibrant relationship community. Our dynamic, engaged community of married people are the real heroes that make all this possible. We hope you’ll join us.