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Sexual Styles #614
A husband has emailed us with feedback and his thoughts about Episodes #610 and #611.
We go through his ideas point by point, and then land on a conversation about the win-win situations in marriage. Or, to put it another way, do they really exist?
On the Extended Version …
Pam and I discuss the three different sexual styles according the Dr Schnarch.
Which style is yours?
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Conversation About Men And Women | Mark Rosenfeld #613
I had a fun conversation with Mark Rosendfeld, one that just started right when I hit record and simply kept going.
We cover lots of aspects about men and women and our relationships with each other.
To find more of Mark’s work go here – https://makehimyours.com.au/
On the Extended Version …
Mark and I keep the conversation going.
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People Pleasers | Natalie Lue #612
Natalie Lue, author of The Joy Of Saying No, joins me as we dive into the trait of people pleasing.
But isn’t looking out for others and what they want a good thing?
Not always. In fact, it can be downright destructive.
Learn more about Natalie here – https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/
On the Extended Version …
Natalie and I continue the conversation, only a little more personally.
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We React From Our Fear Or Pain Or Preference | Feedback Wednesday #611
It’s a Feedback Wednesday again, where we answer questions from the Nation and today follow up from our episode last week.
A wife emails in encouraging me to re-think my stance and advice regarding last week’s segment on if a husband should tell his wife about his struggle with porn.
A wife prefers to offload her day, and talk about intimate and even conflictual topic with her husband in bed. He does not. It turns her on. It turns him off.
On the Extended Version …
A husband is married to a wife who goes to be well before him, gets up well before him, doesn’t share any hobbies together, and can only pursue his wife sexually at a prescribe day and time.
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Should I Tell My Wife? | Feedback Wednesday #610
It’s Feedback Wednesday, where we answer questions from the Nation.
A wife had a little issue with our Trust vs Hurt episode. She heard our take as possibly blaming the betrayed spouse, not the betrayer.
A husband has had a struggle with porn before he married his wife, and it has continued into their marriage as well. He’s tried several times to kick it, unsuccessfully. Should he tell his wife about his struggle?
On the Extended Version …
A wife emails us about how her husband is very curious and wants to explore more about the swinging lifestyle. This breaks her heart … and scares her.
Enjoy the show!
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Our Bodies Tell God’s Story | Christopher West #609
There are many times in life where we may wonder what’s the meaning or story behind the things in our lives. What if there is something else going on?
Christopher West joins me today as we discuss how our desires and our bodies tell a story. Specifically, they tell God’s story.
Learn more about Christopher here –
https://tobinstitute.org/
https://askchristopherwest.com/
On the Extended Version …
Christopher dives into how the writings of Pope John Paul II shaped his learning and path with this message.
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The Importance of Agency | Dr Juliana Hauser #608
Dr Juliana Hauser joins me as we dive into her work on the concept of agency.
So what is agency? It’s the ability to stand on your own two feet. To make decisions in life and face the consequences of them either way.
To learn more about Dr Juliana check out her site – https://dr-juliana.com/
On the Extended Version …
Dr Juliana and I continue to explore her work and the research surrounding her mission and message.
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Passion Killers | Dr Alexandra Stockwell #607
Today I am joined by Dr Alexandra Stockwell, AKA the Intimacy Doctor, and we discuss the common passion killers in marriage and long term relationships.
Learn more about Dr Stockwell on her site – https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/
On the Xtended Version …
We dive deeper into the idea of an uncompromising marriage. What exactly does that mean and how does it help?
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How Sex Works In Our Brain | Dr Emily Nagoski #606
Today we are joined by Dr Emily Nagoski as we discuss how sex works in the brain.
During the pandemic she rewrote her best selling book, Come As You Are.
What lead to this decision? What exactly did she update?
What has changed in the science over the years since she first published the book?
To listen to the other episode with Dr Nagoski you can find it here – Responsive Desire #606
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A Great Cake Recipe #605
Welcome to the new digs … Passionately Married.
Today we discuss a great cake recipe …. as in a recipe for creating a great life and marriage.
What are the ingredients that make up a great cake of life and marriage?
On the Extended Version …
For the past 6 years we’ve used the 3 words model of setting the course for a new year. Rather than New Year’s resolutions, we have 3 words that help chart our goals and paths.
Enjoy the show!
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Trust vs Hurt Revisited #604
The whole show we are talking about trust and hurt … and how there is a tremendous difference in handling these two aspects of betrayal, lies, and broken promises.
Enjoy the show!
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You Are Not Broken Revisited | Dr Kelly Casperson #603
Today we pull a show from the vault and listen again to Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and life.
To earn more about Dr Kelly visit her site – https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/
On the Extended Version …
Dr Kelly and I discuss where orgasms reside in the brain!
Enjoy the show!
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