Want the XTD Content?
Subscribe to hear the Xtended Episodes by clicking here.
Starter Packs
New to the show? These Starter Packs are collections of our most popular episodes grouped by topic. For existing listeners, you can also browse starter packs to find your old favorites. The best intro episode to SMR would be here.
Every week, SMR delivers interviews with experts and answers your questions to help your marriage thrive. Learn how to subscribe to the show and never miss a new episode.
Divorce Is Not An Option, Or Is It? #628
Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but divorce is not an option.
We answer her questions, then expand into some different topics that are at play in every marriage.
On the Xtended Version …
We do a deeper look at the dynamic of over-functioning and under-functioning.
Which one are you?
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod
Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, episode #626, and the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay
A Higher View | Dr Michael Sytsma #627
Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take.
Learn more about Dr Sytsma here – https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/
On the Xtended Version …
I continue the conversation with Michael about Dr Schnarch’s idea of eyes-open-sex.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com
Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com
Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay
You Need A Tribe | Chandler and Jade Rogers #626
Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey towards healing.
Check out the app Chandler created to help others on this journey as well – Relay
On the Xtended Version …
Pam and I share our story and journey with the struggle and impact of pornography on our marriage and life.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Join Relay: Learn more about the pornography recovery group program Chandler created, the Relay app: bit.ly/passionately-married-relay
Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://passionatelymarried.net/academy
Takeaways From 30 Years Of Marriage #625
This week Pam and I are looking back at what we’ve learned after 30 years of marriage.
Come look back with us.
On the Xtended Version …
A surprisingly high number of people will admit to snooping on their spouse’s phone or devices.
So what’s the motivation and results of this path?
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod
Academy: Join the Academy on any monthly level and get your first month free! Use the code summer23 at https://passionatelymarried.net/academy
Menopause and Hormones | Dr Kelly Casperson #624
This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman – you won’t want to miss this episode.
Learn more about Dr Kelly here – https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod
Unilateral Moves | Feedback Wednesday #623
Today we answer emails from the Nation.
A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on?
A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again.
On the Extended Version …
A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn’t know what would liven up her sex life.
What can she do?
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
Covenant Spice: Your safe place for Christians to find ways to spice up their sex life. Use our code radio and get a free gift with every purchase at https://covenantspice.com
Lust Management | Jay Stringer #622
In this episode I’m joined by Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor, and we talk about the importance of facing and addressing trauma and pain in order to heal and grow. Our tendency often is to numb or run away from pain – or attempt to manage it, but it is more important to be a witness to one’s own story while also having empathetic witnesses in the form of supportive friends and family.
Learn more about Jay here – https://jay-stringer.com/
On the Extended Version …
Jay and I continue the conversation and highlight the importance of facing and processing trauma and pain in order to grow and heal, while also acknowledging the difficulty and complexity of doing so..
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com
Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
Lessons In The Sandwich Generation #621
This week we are trying something different – this is a conversation from Pam and I while we were driving back from moving a parent into an independent living complex.
What are we learning while we deal with issues surrounding aging parents – and teenagers?
Listen to find out.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
Brave Listening | Dr Stacey Freedenthal #620
In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, as we talk about the taboo topic of suicide and the importance of brave listening.
Dr. Freedenthal shares her experiences as a suicide prevention expert and her insights on how to talk about suicide with loved ones.
We discuss the fear and discomfort that often surrounds this topic and how to overcome it through active listening, empathy, and curiosity.
This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who wants to better understand suicide and learn how to support those who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts or ideation.
Join us as we provide valuable insights and practical tips on how to engage in brave listening and help others feel seen and heard.
Learn more about Dr Stacey here –
https://staceyfreedenthal.com/
https://www.speakingofsuicide.com/
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, call 988.
On the Extended Version …
Stacey and I continue the conversation but look more deeply at the topic as clinicians, then how that fits with everyone else.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod
Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
5 Minutes A Day | Dr Wyatt Fisher #619
Hello, Nation! I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist and marriage counselor.
In this episode, we discussed a powerful tool for couples called the “Bullseye Question,” which can help couples communicate effectively and strengthen their relationship.
The Bullseye Question involves setting aside five minutes each day to give and receive constructive feedback from your partner. This allows couples to communicate openly and honestly about what’s working and what’s not in their relationship, without feeling defensive or attacked.
Dr. Fisher explains that the key to making the Bullseye Question work is to approach it with a mindset of growth and self-improvement, rather than criticism or blame. By asking each other “what could I have done better today?” couples can create a safe space for feedback that is focused on growth and improvement.
We also discuss its benefits, including how it can help couples develop stronger communication skills, build trust and intimacy, and ultimately create a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.
If you’re looking to strengthen your marriage and improve your communication with your spouse, I highly recommend listening to this episode. There is a wealth of knowledge and practical tips you can start using today to improve your relationship.
Learn more here – https://www.drwyattfisher.com/
On the Extended Version …
Wyatt and I go deeper into another one of his strategies, the Head and Heart Method for connection.
Looking for more intimacy or connection?
Listen to the XTD to find it.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
HoneyLove: Get 20% OFF @honeylove + Free Shipping with our promo code Passion at https://www.honeylove.com/passion #honeylovepod
Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
Money And Love | Abby Davidson #618
Abby Davidson joins the show as we talk about one of the more contentious topics in married life, money.
What are some good ways to address this topic and then make decisions together? Listen to find out.
Learn more about Abby here – https://www.abbydavisson.com/
On the Extended Version …
We keep the conversation going and get a little more personal.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Manscaped: Get 20% off and free shipping on the worlds best grooming products for men. Use the code Passion at https://manscaped.com
Adventure Challenge Mini Dates: Our friends at The Adventure Challenge have a new resource, Mini Dates! Get 20% off when you use our code PM20 at https://www.theadventurechallenge.com
Postpartum Intimacy and Sex | Brianna Carey #617
Brianna Carey joins me today as we discuss the common issues women face during the postpartum stage of life and marriage.
To learn more about Brianna, check out her site – https://brianna-carey.square.site/
On the Extended Version …
We keep the conversation going and discuss some of the ideas Brianna uses to maintain a better connection with your spouse, regardless of the season or stage of life.
Enjoy the show!
Sponsors …
Passionately Married Academy: Pick your level of more access, Free, Academy and the new Masterclass level. https://passionatelymarried.net/academy