You Can Not Not Communicate

Communication

The number one issue voiced by most couples is, “We have trouble communicating.” It’s a common complaint. And many couples think they would benefit from some communication training. Many seem to think if they could better express themselves or if their spouse would...

How To Fight In Marriage: Start Well – End Well

Communication, Relationship Design, Simplicity

How do you fight? You will fall into one of three categories. Conflict avoiders – We never fight. I never once heard a cross word between my mom and dad. Volatile – Like cats and dogs. We fight all the time, over anything and everything. But we love to...

How To Keep Arguments From Escalating

Communication, Relationship Design

Remember what it was like as a teenager dreaming about driving? How much you looked forward to the day you’d have your own wheels and could head out whenever you wanted? While learning to drive, one important lesson you must learn is how to stop the car....

Focus on the how not the what

Relationship Design

What is it that creates the intensity in certain conversations with your spouse? What moves a conversation between two people from the issue at hand into personal meltdown? Emotional reactivity. But this isn’t all bad, emotional reactivity also turns out to be...

Are You Making These Marriage Mistakes?

Communication, Relationship Design

Over 20 years of my life, I have been married. Overall, these years have been good, if not great at times. There are other times however, when marriage has been anything but good. Sadly, many of these times where brought on by my own stupidity. I’ve made many of...