Helping When Help Is Not Wanted

Relationship Design

The scene is a couple driving in the car on the way to dinner: Silence for several minutes. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” A few more minutes of silence passed, “I know something is wrong. What’s going on?” “Nothing! Jeez, what am I doing?” “That’s just it! You’re...

The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have

Simplicity

Do a Google search of the word relationships and you’ll find about 178,000,000 articles, links and sites on the topic. Interestingly though, you won’t find many links and articles on the most important relationship you’ll ever have – the one...

The Elusive Happiness Problem

Goals and Dreams, Relationship Design

In October of 2006 I finished writing and defending my Dissertation, which was the final step in completing my Ph.D. in Family Therapy. This was a huge milestone. One that began six years earlier when I decided to begin graduate school. Completing school was something...

Goals And Dreams Are Not Ends

Goals and Dreams, Relationship Design

Every year my wife and I have pointed discussions about our dreams, goals and plans for the future. Over the years we have tried to keep life simple. This includes our marriage, parenting, household schedules, and activities our kids are involved in. We believe that...

The Way It's Always Been

Relationship Design, Simplicity

As you go through family and married life, it’s fairly common that you’ll fall victim to routine. As a couple you have your chores, they have theirs. You sit the same places in the living room, at the dinner table, and you even have “your side of the...