Valentine's Week of Giveaways: A Private Affair


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Let’s kick off the week with one of my favorites, A Private Affair: The Erotic Game of Secrets, Plans and Promises for Couples, a unique “black box” of intimate possibility for couples created by Dr. Todd and Jan Sellick.
A game that can be played in restaurants, over coffee, while out for a walk, even on the phone. My wife and I have played this game several times while out to dinner and even while driving in the car, it’s a great conversation starter.
Three thousand years ago Solomon suggested that “an honest answer (straight talk) is like a kiss on the lips;” a thing of simply, happy, complete and juicy intimacy. This little verse inspired a game.
Stories about “sexless marriages” are hot topics at the moment, but the issue is not really ”sexless” but “less” in general for so many; less adventure, less understanding, less connecting, less joy, less kindness, less energy, less hope, etc.
Sheldon Vanauken, in his fabulous book “A Severe Mercy” suggested that unless couples are extremely mindful and diligent in their marriage, they risk suffering a “creeping separateness” that distorts and tarnishes the life and friendship of marriage.  The sexual part of the relationship very naturally, and reasonably, suffers along with this, so often bruised in this experience of “creeping separateness.”
Couples are often hungry for connection, but a bit lost as to where to begin.
One reviewer said that he and his wife think of the game as “emotional bungee jumping;” a risky adventure, but one where they ultimately feel safe as they jump into various depths together.
A Private Affair is not a typical couples “sex game” at all; not the kind you play at home on Friday night with a bottle of massage oil, a feather, and blindfold (although you definitely could include these items). This game is played with “eyes wide open” while you move through the bits and pieces of life with your spouse.

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This giveaway will end February 19th at 11:59 PM CST.
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